Sunday, August 21, 2005

Cry It Out: A Playlist to Mourn a Lost Romance

From love shattered to romantic hopes dissolved, we always seem to seek out the music. We know that there's a substantial chance that the lyrics or notes so assembled will cause more tears, or evoke sadness that we were repressing. Maybe that's why we go to the music, to help us feel or to help us get past the feeling, to reinforce our shapeless sadness and bind it to emotional reality. Sometimes, it's all about the music. And here's a playlist for crying your way through it. Long December (Counting Crows) Don't Give Up (Peter Gabriel/Kate Bush) Wonderful Tonight (Eric Clapton) Two Steps Behind (Def Leppard) In Your Eyes (Peter Gabriel) Imagine (John Lennon) Torn (Natalie Imbruglia) The First Cut is the Deepest (Sheryl Crow) Behind These Hazel Eyes (Kelly Clarkson) Romeo & Juliet (Indigo Girls) This Woman's Work (Kate Bush) You Will Be Loved (Maroon 5) There's a Fine, Fine Line (Avenue Q) I'll Miss You in a Heartbeat (Def Leppard) Wise Up (Aimee Mann)

10 comments:

torontopearl said...

I was once a JDater Anonymous -- thank G-d I haven't been one in a number of years -- and this song was on that playlist of mine:
Bonnie Raitt's "I Can't Make You Love Me."
The words clench the heart when you realize you can't always make something emerge from nothing...

annabel lee said...

Wow, there's no overlap between yours and mine:

Foolish Games - Jewel
One I Love - REM
Lightning Crashes - Live
As Cool As I Am - Dar Williams
One - U2
Drops of Jupiter - Train
Here With Me - Dido
I Will Not Take These Things for Granted - Toad the Wet Sprocket
I Just Wanna Be Loved - AM Radio
Only You - Yaz
Should've Known Better - Richard Marx
Everywhere - Michelle Branch
Time After Time - Cyndi Lauper
Through the Long Night - Billy Joel
Your Wildest Dreams - Moody Blues
Everything You Want - Vertical Horizon
Insensitive - Jann Arden

Anonymous said...

Some of the same artists are on my list. heh

Taylor- Jack Johnson
Pavlovs Bell- Aimee Mann
I Quit- Hepburn
Perhaphs Perhaphs- Cake
Goodbye to You- Michele Branch
The Scientist- Cold Play

Roz

Esther Kustanowitz said...

Really good comments, y'all.

"I Can't Make You Love Me" really used to get to me.

U2's good..."Stuck in a Moment" works well as a mantra.

And in terms of "Goodbye to You," I love Scandal's song by that name...it's great to "yell at your ex" with. Also, "The Warrior..."

Chutzpah said...

I'll spare you the Tom Jones today Esther, but you can't leave this one out...

LOVE WILL ABIDE
TAKE THINGS IN STRIDE
SOUNDS LIKE GOOD ADVICE BUT THERE'S NO ONE AT MY SIDE
AND TIME WASHES CLEAN LOVE'S WOUNDS UNSEEN
THAT'S WHAT SOMEONE TOLD ME
BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANS
'CAUSE I'VE DONE EVERYTHING I KNOW
TO TRY AND MAKE YOU MINE
AND I THINK I'M GONNA LOVE YOU FOR A LONG, LONG TIME
CAUGHT IN MY FEARS
BLINKING BACK THE TEARS
I CAN'T SAY YOU HURT ME WHEN YOU NEVER LET ME NEAR
AND I NEVER DREW ONE RESPONSE FROM YOU
ALL THE WHILE YOU FELL ALL OVER GIRLS YOU NEVER KNEW
'CAUSE I'VE DONE EVERYTHING I KNOW
TO TRY AND MAKE YOU MINE
AND I THINK IT'S GONNA HURT ME FOR A LONG, LONG TIME
WAIT FOR THE DAY YOU'LL GO AWAY
KNOWIN' THAT YOU WARNED ME OF THE PRICE I'D HAVE TO PAY
AND LIFE'S FULL OF LOSS,
WHO KNOWS THE COST
LIVIN' IN THE MEMORY OF A LOVE THAT NEVER WAS
'CAUSE I'VE DONE EVERYTHING I KNOW
TO TRY AND CHANGE YOUR MIND
AND I THINK I'M GONNA MISS YOU FOR A LONG, LONG TIME
--Linda Ronstadt

Jewgini said...

This is much more "old school" than your other choices, but don't underestimate the power of moody Frank Sinatra albums...some particular favorites of mine for those moments are "Frank Sinatra Sings for Only the Lonely" and "No One Cares"...when I listen to them, I may still feel sad, but I always feel better in some way - I think, is someone as cool as Frank could feel so hurt (and you KNOW he felt that bad at some point, you can hear the emotion in his voice) and survive, so will I :)

Anonymous said...

once you listen to counting crows in that mood you got to play "raining in Baltimore "

MC Aryeh said...

I just listen to music any chance I get. But if I were to make a breakup playlist, it would for sure include:


Why - Annie Lennox
Love's Divine - Seal
I Know You By Heart - Eva Cassidy
A Boat On The Sea - Kristen Vigard
Everybody Hurts - REM
Moonlight Kiss - Bap Kennedy
The End Of The Innocence - Don Henley
True Companion - Marc Cohn
Wish I Didn't Miss You - Angie Stone
Never Saw Blue Like That - Shawn Colvin
Miles Away - Winger
I'll Still Be Loving You - Restless Heart
I'll Be Over You - Toto
Stupid Thing - Aimee Mann

Ayelet said...

Must add "Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word" by Elton John and pretty much 90% of Elliott Smith's catalog.

Love the blog, by the way!

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