Thursday, October 27, 2005

Random Dating Thought of the Day

Boy, Kissing Jessica Stein is a great movie. Great comic script, deft performances by the newcomers and by Tovah Feldshuh alike, even with an actually positive and authentic portrayal of Jewish life. Makes temporary lesbianism (and/or Scott Cohen/Josh Meyers/Max Medina; and/or writing a great new independent comedy film) look like a really good idea. I'm just saying. Let's "let it marinate."

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

Makes temporary lesbianism...look like a really good idea.
-----------
As long as it's only temporary (or part-time).

It's interesting that girl-girl sex is less taboo than guy-guy under halacha.

I did a search for downloadable movies on Limewire, and there were more under "lesbian" than any word I entered except "bl*wj*b". And was almost a dead heat. For what it's worth.

marty said...

Esther, are you switching teams?

Esther Kustanowitz said...

Nothing's set in stone. But it's tempting.

TM (Jewlicious) said...

Um, send pix...

Hilary said...

The scene where she is sitting on the porch with her mom makes me cry every time.

Anonymous said...

Esther, do NOT become gay. You're too pretty and smart and desirable and many men would be heartbroken. Like moi.

Does being a funny girl go with a tendency towards gayness or AC-DC? I'm thinking of Ellen Degeneres. It's like humor is a masculine quality.

I've thought of becoming gay myself since dating exclusively Jewish girls, but have had sex with girls (gentile ones) and wouldn't want to swear it off.

I would say that some (not ALL) Jewish girls can be, how to say this delicately, "ballbusters". What epithet do you ladies use for Jewish men who bust your balls (if you had any)?

Lyss said...

It's an awsome movie. SUprised you hadnt seen it yet...sice it is about Jewish single gals and life in NYC.

Esther Kustanowitz said...

I have seen it before. Multiple times, and it's good every time. Tee hee. Just realized what that sounded like.

I don't believe homosexuality is a choice, so I'm stuck with you guys. Or actually, without you guys. So far.

But seriously, the movie's that good. There's an extended scene on the DVD that is out of control hilarious: when she's with a date boating through Central Park. Look into it, people...

Needsabetterjob said...

Esther, it is a choice. Otherwise you wouldn't have bi's, or many who .
You still haven't mentioned what you are doing to improve this situation. We know that you constantly complain, but what are you doing? Even to take a class in Tai Chi, this will help you in so many ways. It will firstly, totally relax you, put you in touch w/ yourself, help you to feel better and stronger. There are many Eastern oriented classes as well in self awareness and growth, you should try one. I have previously suggested Dale Carneighie, Osho, and the Forum.
Certainly u can become a lesbian, if that is who you truly are, but it sounds more like a joke, if it were real I am sure, you would just do it.

marty said...

I think if you dated me, it could put you over the edge. I wouldn't want that on my conscience. I am already carrying several generations worth of guilt.

Tyler said...

Esther, it is a choice. Otherwise you wouldn't have bi's, or many who .

This sounds like an incomplete sentence. I think the idea of a ordinal scale integrates the concept of whether your sexuality is a choice or not. In this viewpoint, gay or straight is not digital but analog. Kinsey was the first to measure this, as far as I know, on a scale from 0 to 6. So if you're a 0, then you're straight as an arrow and you don't really have a choice; same thing with a 6 except that you go for the same sex. In between, there is more flexibility - a 2 might prefer the opposite sex, but still be able to have fun or a relationship with someone of the the same sex.

So, in this framework, the expression or practical outcome of someone's sexual orientation it is much more of a choice for people in the middle of the scale; it is less so for those at the ends.

Chutzpah said...

Never saw the movie or had a lesbian experience or a threesome...guess I'm not as much fun as I like to think I am.

Needsabetterjob said...

Tyler, In Judaism, it is considered a choice. This is a Jewish oriented web site so there you go.
I once read something by the Lubavicher Rebbe, that many boys develope gay feelings and this has to be a concious effort for them to overcome and love their wives.
That is, he felt that due to their closeness and seperate sex activities, their gay feelings develope, naturally as it were.
Interesting take.

Anonymous said...

Maybe availability is also a factor. There's a lot more gay sex in jail. Two otherwise straight people, if marooned with each other on a desert island forever, might experience shall we say unexpected feelings for each other.

mission2moscow said...

Based on what I remember of the movie, it falls into the category of "Woody Allen" Judaism. Jessica makes a big deal in the beginning about Jewishness, as do her parents, then before long she's in love with a Gentile. This is just another movie, enjoyable as it may be, that uses Jewishness as a spray-on shorthand for hip, edgy, and cool. For Jessica to find and love another Jew -- now that would be intriguing. (If I'm not remembering correctly, feel free to chastise me.)

online dating service said...

Quite interesting, really amused.