Sunday, October 02, 2005

Hate Children? Good News!

Tired of waiting for your soulmate? Think you would have gotten away with having met her or him already, too, if it hadn't been for those meddling kids? Well, good news for you! BellaOnline informs us of the founding of dinklink.com:
Launched on August 21, 2005, Joe Pazo came up with the idea for Dinklink (derived from the phrase “Double Income No Kids”) five years ago. “I was incredibly frustrated with my own pursuit of a ‘dinklink’ and decided to look around online,” says Joe. “I was amazed to see the dating sites at the time basically ignoring people like me. I mean sure, most offered little check boxes in the profile section to the effect of 'do you want kids?' or 'do you have kids?' Both were typically buried near the bottom. For me, these were two of the most important things.” [...]These issues are especially present in the child free singles scene. “From a dating perspective specifically, the biggest challenge I've seen is the perception that being child-free is some sort of a 'phase' you go through that could be changed by the 'right' person,” says Joe. “But being child-free is a lifelong commitment, and something we don't take lightly.”
A lifelong commitment to being child-free. Ain't the internet great?

11 comments:

Passionate Life said...

Shana Tova Esther,

Thank you for your very kind wishes! May this year bring you all the happiness in the world and finally turn this blog into former JDatersanonymous.

Oh yeah! Jim Ryan told me to tell you that he is still Kvelling!!!!! ;-)

Have a Kesiva Vachasima Tova!

P-Life ;-)

Tyler said...

Well, I don't think child-free people hate children, exactly...

At times, though, they can get pretty humorless. If you ever have the chance to see an online debate between child-free folks and children-are-a-blessing, be-fruitful-and-multiply folks... wow, watch out!

Almost as fun as atheists vs. evangelicals!

Anonymous said...

shana tova I hope you have a great year and I hope your site has an equally great year.

I have to admit I don't want kids. Don't get me wrong I love my cousins and neieces and nephews. I think I'm just scared of somthing comming out of my body. lol

Shana tova to everyone.

Roz

Jennifer said...

Hello, my name is Jennifer, I don't want kids, and I am not evil.

I don't hate kids. I judge kids the way I do adults: on a case-by-case basis. However, I DON'T think I would make a good mom at all (plus giving birth might uh, kill me). Call me crazy, but shouldn't that be a good reason for me not to want my very own babies?

From what I've heard, dinklink.com isn't real useable and doesn't have too many people on it, but the idea isn't a bad one. I already had one relationship in which my SO knew I didn't want kids, but would still spout "WHEN we have kids" all the dang time. (Clearly, he'd just decided I'll change my mind and become a good mommy when it's my own.) I won't do online dating myself, but I have to admit it'd be nice to have already had the "You'll change your mind!" folks filtered out of the dating process.

Chutzpah said...

just to be on the compassionate side (for a change), some people can't emotionally raise children and some people can't physically have or raise them, for whatever reason, so the site might not be filled with all self-absorbed people who will never grow up (anyway, that's what jdate is for).

afroblanca said...

I think this DinkLink thing is a great idea. I have absolutely no desire to reproduce, and it's good to know that there are a sizable amount of women out there that feel the same way. I wonder what the gender ratio is among the childfree - I always imagined more men then women, but I hope I'm wrong.

As for the site, yeah, it sucks. Slow, unusable, sorta like the retarded cousin of any online dating service that you've ever used.

Here's to hoping that it gets better!

Ayelet said...

Shana tova to you. I'm very happy to have found your site and especially this post. I'm a 34-yr-old woman who has known for many years that she doesn't want children. It's very hard defending this choice to people. They think I must be some child-hating bitch. But the truth is, I don't feel motherhood is for me. I know in my heart it's not, just like so many know in their hearts it is. I wish more people would respect that choice, as I respect the choice of those who have kids!

Again, shana tova and here's to a year full of nachas for all. And feel free to check out my site.

Anonymous said...

I've known since I was eighteen years old that I wanted nothing to do with being a mother and sixteen years later I feel the same way.

I can't stand it when parents act like they're superior to your poor misguided soul because they've seen the procreating light and you haven't. If having a baby automatically made you a more loving and compassionate person child abuse wouldn't exist.

Anonymous said...

I always want to ask people like that, "If having children makes you a better person, how come you're still such a thoughtless, insensitive jackass?" Lol

crossmyheart38@yahoo.com said...

I have never wanted kids in the first place. Funny how i used to think that it's just normal to have kids, raise them and be a doting mother of 2. Now, as my clock is ticking (which I could care less) I am beginning to feel the pressure of having them around the house, crying, shouting, mess up the place, not forgetting that they are absolutely dependent creatures that need guidance 24/7 for another 18 years to come. I saw nasty pictures of baby's little hand reaching out of the mother's womb.

http://www.theinterim.com/2002/nov/12veteran.html

I have to admit that it freaks me out!!! That picture is NASTY! It is NOT TOUCHING!!!In fact, it killed the littlest percentage of me wanting to have just one kid.

I get so mad everytime people ask when do I want to have kids/how many kids do I have now/Why don't you want them? I find it annoying that friends only talk about their kids and nothing else. I find it very frustrating that they bring their kids out everytime we have afternoon catching-up session. I also hate it that they complain endlessly about how naughty their babies are and are worrying about helping them to cope with teenage problems and blah.

Honestly, if it is that difficult a chore, WHY HAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE? I feel like telling them that they are not making it any easier.

Anonymous said...

I remember the times I used to meet people on Jdate.. every second person would ruin the first date by asking if I want to have "a family" in the future. Hell, no. I got sick of jdate after 3 years of trying it and went to another site and had met a man I'm happily married to now, we both want to have nothing to do with children, of course.. Jdate is just infested with reproduction-obsesses individuals, in my observation.