tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post110806612646392156..comments2023-09-22T14:04:12.224-04:00Comments on JDaters Anonymous has moved to JDatersAnonymous.com: READER REQUESTS YOUR ADVICEEsther Kustanowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17598539253079410648noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1129842021681772542005-10-20T17:00:00.000-04:002005-10-20T17:00:00.000-04:00Give up your Czech. You will find mostly they are...Give up your Czech. You will find mostly they are after the other kind of cheque. Find yourself a nice Palestinian girl and help the peace movement<BR/>AbelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1109184821994300752005-02-23T13:53:00.000-05:002005-02-23T13:53:00.000-05:00I don't see why he can't learn the language if she...I don't see why he can't learn the language if she is willing to convert to Judaism. That sounds like a good compromise to me. <br /><br />It's a hard launguage? Tough, I say. I doubt converting is a walk in a park.Carynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11644021837922327574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108492678855842492005-02-15T13:37:00.000-05:002005-02-15T13:37:00.000-05:00i don't believe this is a real person asking a rea...i don't believe this is a real person asking a real question...on the other hand, a typical frogie-cultured question. You see, frenchies think that 'la frawnce' being (they think) the center of the univers, and frwench culture are the pillars of humanity, therefore languages other than theirs are just a nuisance to human existence. Grow up, man. I hope you'll get at the age of 65...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108438475710955802005-02-14T22:34:00.000-05:002005-02-14T22:34:00.000-05:00Okay, let me get this straight. She was willing to...Okay, let me get this straight. She was willing to give up her religion for you. She's giving up her culture for you. But she's drawing the line at being told how she's going to speak to her own kids, and you're having a fit?<br /><br />Don't get married. Get a welcoming mat, cause you seem to need someone to step on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108400759361657892005-02-14T12:05:00.001-05:002005-02-14T12:05:00.001-05:00If that's your only stumbling block (since she agr...If that's your only stumbling block (since she agreed to convert!) I'd leave well enough alone and just be ahppy to have found a good potential partner. Don't get too wrappped up in the small details. Just be happy with what you have. <br />And who know? You might just pick up some casual Czech along the way....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108400742037737712005-02-14T12:05:00.000-05:002005-02-14T12:05:00.000-05:00If that's your only stumbling block (since she agr...If that's your only stumbling block (since she agreed to convert!) I'd leave well enough alone and just be ahppy to have found a good potential partner. Don't get too wrappped up in the small details. Just be happy with what you have. <br />And who know? You might just pick up some casual Czech along the way....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108333777902955802005-02-13T17:29:00.000-05:002005-02-13T17:29:00.000-05:00I'd like to thank you all, and especially Esther, ...I'd like to thank you all, and especially Esther, for helping me out on this issue; it has cleared my head out. I guess I was just freaking out a bit. I hope this may have helped someone else in a similar situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108311052336367732005-02-13T11:10:00.000-05:002005-02-13T11:10:00.000-05:00Perhaps the writer might want to slow things down ...Perhaps the writer might want to slow things down a bit...after all, it's only been six months, and these are really heavy things to ask of the girlfriend. Regardless, it would be a shame if the children were not exposed to their mother's native language -- and the writer might be surprised to find that he picks up some Czech along the way. Relationships are about compromise, and as the writer already notes, he's asked his girlfriend to do something huge already, so it's his turn to be accommodating. But beyond that, he should look at this as an opportunity for his future children, not a burden for himself. What a gift to be able to speak more than one language fluently from early childhood! While they're at it, why doesn't the writer consider teaching his future children French as well?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108093575693553542005-02-10T22:46:00.000-05:002005-02-10T22:46:00.000-05:00I used to date someone who taught foreign language...I used to date someone who taught foreign languages to children and babies. She spoke three languages fluently.<br /><br />I learned that children can handle up to three languages growing up, without any problems. Until they're able to speak decently (around, if I remember right, 2 and a half or so) they may get a bit mixed up between the languages. BUT-- if one parent speaks only one language to the kids, the kids will pretty quickly learn which language to speak to which parent. Just don't have the parents mixing and matching mid-conversation the way multi-lingual adults might.<br />And it's a wonderful gift to give a kid, totally effortless for the kid, to speak a foreign language. And a Western kid who speaks a relatively obscure Eastern European language will possibly be a big asset should that child choose a career in international business. All positives, no negatives. Hope this helps! Best of luck,<br /><br />ShaunAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6858404.post-1108080300526733942005-02-10T19:05:00.000-05:002005-02-10T19:05:00.000-05:00Small children learn multiple languages easily. Yo...Small children learn multiple languages easily. You shouldn't forgo an opportunity for your children to learn as many languages in the cradle as they can. It's also not fair to ask your wife to give up part of her ehtnic heritage.<br /><br />If you think you'll be paranoid if your wife and kids speak Chech together, maybe you don't trust this woman enough to marry her.<br /><br />If you plan to speak to your kids in Hebrew as well as English, then your wife won't understand what you and the kids are saying either. If it's that important to you to keep a balance of power.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03919681605602568664noreply@blogger.com